My rule My Style

2004-06-15T07:05:00.000-07:00

50 Ways to Delete
Your Lover

1. Don’t respond.
2. Become scarce until they lose interest.
3. Sound uninterested and then ignore them.
4. Say you are disinterested clearly, diplomatically, and as soon as possible.
5. Point out something specific in their profile that doesn’t work for you: “I don’t date people who have kids,” or are divorced, or are long-distance, etc.
6. Tell the truth.
7. “Let’s just be friends.”
8. “Thank you for your note. I am not available at present. Hope you find your real mate soon.”
9. “I’m already writing too many people, but thank you.”
10. “I’m not interested, thank you.”
11. “You’re not my type.”
12. “Sorry, I realized that I am not over my last partner yet. I am not ready for a new relationship.”
13. “I don’t think a relationship with you would meet my most important needs.”
14. “I’m not really interested in pursuing this, but it was nice to meet you.”
15. “It was very nice to meet you, but I don’t feel any chemistry between us. I hope you find someone that you connect with.”
16. “It was nice to meet you, but it’s not a good fit for me. Best of luck in your search.”
17. “Sorry, I’m going to be really busy for awhile.”
18. “I believe you are a very nice person, but I don’t think we would connect face-to-face. I wish you luck!”
19. Compliment them but then explain, “I have gotten back into a relationship with someone I met before you—sorry.”
20. “Thank you for your interest, I am flattered by the compliment. However, I am interested in someone else at this time. I wish you all the luck in finding someone who is compatible with you.”
21. “Thank you for writing. I’m seeing several people right now and do not have time for more.”
22. “Critical Differences. Thank you.”
23. “I already found someone.”
24. “I’m gay.”
25. “You are not what I am looking for.”
26. “I’m going to be out of town for a while.”
27. “Thank you, but I’ve stopped looking for love on the Internet.”
28. “I’m married.”
29. “You live in Australia and I live in Alaska, so it won’t work.”
30. “I’m not interested in getting serious right now. Let’s cool it before things progress.”
31. “I’m looking for someone younger.”
32. “I’m looking for someone older.”
33. “Thank you, but no thank you. Good luck.”
34. In order not to hurt their feelings, mention things about yourself that they won’t like: “I don’t believe in God or marriage, and I think drug legalization is the way to go.”
35. Send them the “vibe.”
36. Block them out of your instant messenger program.
37. Change your online name.
38. Disappear.
39. Decline to meet them.
40. Tell them you “suddenly have to go,” and click off of instant messenger.
41. Tell them your computer keeps crashing.
42. “I’m very flattered but I’m looking for something a little different.”
43. “Sorry, this doesn’t feel like a match. Good luck on your journey!”
44. Put a stopper to romantic or sexy talk.
45. “I’m sorry, you seem like a really nice person, but I’m not interested.”
46. “Sorry, it is not working out. I don’t want to hurt you and lead you on. Good luck and hope you find someone.”
47. “No, thank you. Please don’t ask again.”
48. “No. If you persist, I will complain to Sys Admin.”
49. “I’m sorry, I only date people with an IQ in the positive integers.”
50. “I’m short, fat, ugly, and I stink!”

As you determine how you would “delete your lover,” imagine how it would feel if these things were being done or said to you. Choose methods in alignment with your ethics and add them to your repertoire. Would you make a different choice if you were looking in the person’s eyes?

SweetHobbleMe

2004-06-09T10:26:00.000-07:00

Every Woman Should Have..
• One old love she can imagine going back to and one who reminds her how far
She has come.
• Enough money within her control to move out and rent a place of her own even if she never wants to or needs to.
• Something perfect to wear if the employer or date of her dreams wants to see her in an hour.
• A purse, a suitcase, and an umbrella she's not ashamed to be seen carrying.
• A youth she's content to move beyond.
• A past juicy enough that she's looking forward to retelling it in her old age.
• The realization that she is actually going to have an old age and some money set aside to fund it.
• A set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill and a black lace bra.
• One friend who always makes her laugh and one who lets her cry.
• A good piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in her family.
• Eight matching plates, wine glasses with stems and a recipe for a meal that will make her guests feel honored.
• A resume that is not even the slightest bit padded.
• A skin care regime, an exercise routine, and a plan for dealing with those few other facets of life that don't get better after age 30.
• A solid start on a satisfying career, a satisfying relationship, and all those other facets of life that do get better.
• A feeling of control over her destiny...

SMOCH (my signature peck)
SweetHobbleMe

2004-06-07T11:16:00.000-07:00

5 FUN FEARLESS FEMALE RULES:

1.Take anything you're told as suggestion, not solid advice. You have to do what works for you.

2.Airbrushing exists and it's used often, so what you see isn't always what you get.

3.Make your own way. Then you don't have to get married for money or security. You can get married for fun, enjoyment, and total partnership.

4.Date until you're ready to get married. Check them all out - from the bad boy to the intellectual to the artist. Know that once you find someone, it's because you've tested the water.

5.Learn how to fix something in the house and be really good at it. Have a power drill and learn how to use it - even if you only use it to hang pictures.

Source: COSMOPOLITAN
Feb.2003 Issue pp. 151

SMOCH (my signature peck),
SweetHobbleMe